Is it normal to feel so up and down with my mood?
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45 posts since
14 Feb 2020
Two months ago my mum was diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer. It was a massive shock, but the doctors have been really positive. The oncologist said that they’re aiming to cure the cancer and that my mum’s type of cancer means that she is elligible for immunotherapy. Also her cancer isn’t aggressive. The oncologist said that she’s seen people with stage 3 cancer be cured even without immunotherapy. My mum asked if it was true that lung cancer was one of the hardest cancers to treat and she said it’s not. She seemed like treating it would be a piece of cake.
My mum’s been having her treatment and is nearly finished; she has 8 more radiotherapies and one more chemo. Her treatment has only been six weeks in total. Apart from the beginning when my mum felt unwell due to the chemo side effects she feels really well. My mum is 70 and apart from knee pain which she had way before getting cancer and the doctors said that she may need a replacement, she feels perfectly fine. She’s in good spirits and she’s got a good appetite. She’s lost a bit of weight (maybe 4 or 5 kilos, but she’s a bit overweight) in the past two months, but the weight loss seems to have slowed now. My mum said that since the radiotherapy she’s stop wheezing and doesn’t get chest pain when she walks.
Even though my mum is doing well, I still get scared. I’m scared what if treatment wont work and I’m getting my hopes up too much? I get even more scared when I hear stories of people dying from cancer. Today my mum’s friend’s cousin died from pancreatic cancer which spread all over. She was only 45 with two young children. I know that every case is different but it still frightens me. Ever since my mum’s diagnosis I’ve been very optimistic, but I have my down days. Today me and my mum are going to watch a film and in my mind I’m like what if she won’t be here next year? I don’t want to think that way and usually I don’t allow myself to think that way, but today I feel really down and scared.
1734 posts since
26 Jun 2017
Hi love, it’s perfectly normal to feel this way as it’s a big shock to hear your Mum has cancer, our two grown up daughters were the same with their Dad, he has stage 4 lung cancer incurable but three years on he is still here after chemo, radiotherapy and now immunotherapy. It’s early days for you and I have been the same, is this his last birthday, is this the last wedding anniversary and so on, its human nature to think this way. So enjoy your days with Mum, one day at a time, try not too think too far ahead just concentrate on the moment and feel happy she’s got a good diagnosis. Good luck to you and Mum, love Carol x
45 posts since
14 Feb 2020
Thanks so much for your post. It’s incredible that your husband is still here, three years after being diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. I am hearing of more and more cases, where people with stage 4 cancer are living longer, even years. I hope that his recovery continues and that he has many more years left.
Cancer is so unpredictable and scary especially people on this site have a loved one whose cancer has come back and is terminal; it’s really scary. I’ve had a really bad day with anxiety and I can’t stop reading up about my mum’s cancer, which I know isn’t helpful as the doctors have been so positive. One of the consultations was so surprised by my mum’s age because she looks a lot younger and keeps herself well.
1734 posts since
26 Jun 2017
Please don’t stress about cancer sites and statistics they cover a whole range of cancers and really are generic. My husband was in the 7% survival group and after chemo it was 70% so you really must think positive both for your own health and your Mum’s recovery. At the moment we are all stressed as we’re trapped at home and can think more. Stay well and take care of your lovely Mum. X
6 posts since
12 Apr 2020
Sounds like you are going through alot of pain worry and stress. So yeah I think it’s ok to feel how u are but You have to look after your self to. I pray your mum will get better. Times like this are very worrying. And I can relate to how your feeling as my my best friend had stage 4 cancer. Was very hard to accept But we have to remember not everyone is the same. You just have to look after your self in this situation to in order to look after your mum. I hope and pray she will recover from this and I hope you continue to keep strong.x
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